1)" GOODBYE WRITER'S BLOCK"
"Like nearly every writer, I sometimes get writer’s block. I try to deny it as much as possible – not allow it to “settle in” – but now and then I get stuck and it stays for a while. During one such bout I ran across Frank Pasquill’s Emotional Tuning. It made a great deal of sense to me. I’d seen EMDR work on my wife, and I’m a believer in energy centers. I’m also deep into meditation, so I’m very attuned to the messages of my body and my mind.
I’d been in a writing rut for nearly a month, so I tried Emotional Tuning, humming, tapping, being fully aware and centered. Nothing happened that day; but the next morning it was like being shot from a cannon. I finished the second draft of my book in 6 weeks, and haven’t really slowed down since."
Jock Whitehouse, author, The Ledge of Quetzal – Beyond 2012.
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2)" I CHANGED MY MIND ABOUT CHANGE" - Written by Client NL after Nine Video Conferences
Looking back over my 67 years, I guess I’ve had problems with controlling anger for most of them, although I’d never really faced up to that fact until the day, last Christmas season, when my wife of 22 years told me to either get professional help or get used to living alone.
The proverbial straw that broke the camel’s back was my becoming upset over a trivial incident during the visit of her son and his family which left our five-year old grand-daughter in tears.
When I tried to apologize to her, my wife interrupted me, trying to be helpful, and I got angry about the interruption.
It was the latest incident in a series of arguments over the years, 95% of them centered around my anger toward her children.
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THE CHALLENGE OF CHILDREN
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For the first six years of our marriage, my wife’s four dependent children spent their school year with their father in another city and summer and Christmas vacations with us. Then, through a dramatic change of their circumstances, they came to live with us full time.
I found the day-to-day challenges of trying to help raise four pre-and teen-aged children daunting, to say the least, and was full of anger and resentment most of the time. I used to say things like “Teenagers don’t belong in civilized society, and “I would gladly live the rest of my life with people under 10 and over 30.”
My stepchildren are all adults now and two of them are parents in their own right. When they visit, those old memories return and the anger erupts.
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MY EPIPHANY
Through my counselor, Frank Pasquill, I learned how to use such techniques as the yoga calming breath and the stimulation of my body’s energy meridians to revisit those memories and not only control the angry feelings they evoked but also to dissipate those feelings entirely. It was a wonderfully freeing feeling.
Recently, after about six therapy sessions, I experienced what I now refer to as an epiphany. I was walking by my neighbourhood high school, an area I normally avoid because of my previously engrained attitude toward teens, the majority of whom I regarded as rude and inconsiderate A bunch of students were lining both sides of the street and carrying placards that read: “Honk if you’re against racism”, “Honk if you’re for integration” and similar messages.Without exception, the cars driving by were responding and each honk was greeted with cheers by the students.
Spontaneously, I clapped my hands as I walked by and said to one of them: “You’re doing a great job!. Keep up the good work” and she replied, “Thank you sir.”
I saw these teens in an entirely new light. Tears started running down my cheeks.
Describing the scene to my wife after I returned home brought the tears back and this time they turned into great, heaving sobs. I felt a tremendous release.
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PERCEPTUAL SHIFT
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In my first counseling session, Frank asked me a question about my attitude toward change and I replied that, in general, I didn’t think people really changed unless circumstances forced them into it and, speaking personally , I wondered whether I was too old to do so. “I yam what I yam”, as Popeye used to say, and if people don’t like my behaviour, that’s their problem.
I now realize that attitude can be hurtful to the people I love and is a sure-fire recipe for living alone.
If asked the same question today, I would reply: “You can change your life by changing the way you see your world and the people around you. I know because I have done so.”
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